Let's Talk About Suicide...

Yesterday, as the news of Robin Williams' tragic death spread through social media like wildfire, I was taken aback by the number of people who used language such as "selfish" and "cowardly" to describe Williams alleged suicide. As a child of the late 80s/early 90s who was raised on Mrs. Doubtfire. Aladdin, and Jumanji, then discovered The Birdcage and Dead Poet's Society, Robin Williams gave voice to my childhood in a way no other actor can come close to. ....

Suicide is an issue that resonates deeply with me. I can no longer count the number of times my mother has flirted with, let alone attempted, to kill herself. It has been a sadly normal part of my life since I was about 6. Thus, it was not really shocking when I myself began to struggle with intense bouts of depression during my early teenage years. I have never made an actual suicide attempt, but I would be lying it I said I'd never thought about it. I've thought about it in great detail. Because to me, if I was ever to take that step. , I wouldn't fail at it. However, I've been incredibly, incredibly fortunate enough to always have someone there to pull be out of my depression before it got to that point. But I do understand, all too well, what it is like to stand on that precipice.

So I would like to ask anyone who feels compelled to say that suicide is selfish or cowardly or the "easy way out" to sit back and really reflect on the privilege that such condemnations come from. If you can honestly say those things, you have obviously never seriously dealt with any mental health issues, or other issues, that truly make someone consider suicide. It is emphatically NOT selfish - what is selfish is demanding that someone else continue on living, enduring god only knows what mental, emotional, and/or physical torments, because it is easier for YOU, not them. The view of suicide as selfish is created by those left behind, who haven't fought the battles that the deceased did, and honestly, you have no experience with what they went through and no right to judge. Your pain at their suicide is YOURS to deal with, it is not their responsibility.

I would also argue that choosing to trade this life in for the unknowable hereafter is anything but cowardly - I would bet that the fear of not knowing what comes next is what keeps many people from taking their own life. And finally, your life is yours. There will always come a time when you take a "way out" and if yo u have honestly reached the point where you cannot bear to go on, then ending your life is NOT the "easy way out", it is the ONLY way out of your hell on earth, and no one on this earth has any right to judge the merits of that decision

Finally, today's events begs the question the of when are we, as a country, going to get serious about mental health issues? How many people have to die before we acknowledge that this is an epidemic in the U.S.? This isn't about drugs and addiction, about people being "bad" or "immoral" or "weak" - this is about people self-medicating with substances because there isn't adequate mental health care available and even when it is, that it has been so stigmatized that people are afraid to access it.

So in the wake of Robin Williams' suicide, I would implore you to be kind everyone you meet, because you don't know who is fighting such a battle inside them at any point. You don't know, and you can't, and thus you need to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, and try to see their actions through their eyes, not yours.